Adventures in Autism

I have three boys....two whom are diagnosed with some form of autism and a three year old baby boy whom doesn't talk much or do much...an autism diagnosis isn't too far away for him either.  My oldest is 12, turning 13 in March.  My second is 10 he has Aspergers but doesn't know it.  So at this point I am going thru violent puberty, the tearful tens and the pre-tantrum twos....(I remember with nick thinking two wasn't bad at all, I don't know what people are whining about...terrible twos...huh...) Then three hit and OMG....it was so bad the police and cps were regular visitors.  Not because I beat him, but because he would scream for hours and hours and we lived in an apartment complex...Nick at 13 still screams multiple times a day for half hour to hour periods but now it has words and anger.  The craziest shit.  If we lived near a nuthouse believe me I'd be there.  lol.